From dating to marriage
In a Penn State University study called the PAIR Project, Professor Ted L.
Huston followed 168 newlywed couples over fourteen years and charted each couple's relationship satisfaction throughout.
Still, "Because there are other variables to consider such as family or origin dynamics, values, etc., I recommend couples wait a minimum of one year to marry," he says. D., author of , the "two year" rule is pretty sensible, but "different couples have very different circumstances.
Amodeo also acknowledges that readiness has a lot to do with each couple's unique situation. As Jane Austen writes, ' It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy: it is disposition alone.
Have you talked about what you both want from marriage? But I'm convinced that it's experiencing life together, through major occurrences (like a job layoff) and mundane activities (like Wal-Mart trips) that will allow us to decide whether we should get married.
The more time we've been together, the more we've seen each other handle life, and this is the best way to build the foundation for a long and happy marriage.
Results showed that couples that had dated an average of twenty-five months before marriage were most happily married at the conclusion of the study.
The study also looked at couples who were quicker to get married.
A lot of that readiness seems to be dependent on your dating past and whether you've learned from your dating history.
While Betchen suggests at least a year, he also explains that self knowledge and learning from past dating mistakes can speed up the dating process.
It might work out okay if they are exceptionally well-matched and mature.
But it takes time to know a person and time to see each other’s darker side and know how each of their 'shadow' sides will interact with each other."A cautious one to two years may be the recommended amount of time according to most, but experts certainly acknowledged that marriage success has more to do with readiness than a simple function of time.